Name: Sorrow
Italian Name: Dispiacere*
Playing Card: A♠
Polarity when Upright: Negative
Core Meanings: Bad news, Sad tidings | Sorrow, Tears | Something that we don’t like, that repels us, that we would rather didn’t happen | Negative interactions, Violence, Beatings, Arguments
Polarity when Reversed: Mildly Negative to Mildly Positive
Reversed Core Meanings: Toil, Labor, Hard work | Repetition, Cycles, Many times | Passing disappointment
Card Description: A woman brings her hands to her eyes in dismay after reading the contents of the distressing letter.
Suit and Number: As all aces, the Ace of Spades is mostly concerned with news. Since Spades are a negative suit, the news is negative, “sad tidings”, as the fortune-tellers of old used to say. Furthermore, aces speak of how people come together to interact, but again, Spades are the negative suit, so the interaction is negative, showing arguments and violence.
UPRIGHT A♠
General: It’s mostly an easy card to understand, as it has fundamentally three meanings: bad news, violence and arguments. If a face card falls together with it, it is usually that person who will be sorry, but there may be exceptions.
Love and Relationships: the Ace of Spades heralds bad news in every area, so in this case it can be the harbinger of rejections or negative communications from the people we are interested in investigating. It is also a card of turbulent relationships both with partners and with family members and friends. The other cards will show whether mediation and reconciliation are possible. Being a card of arguments, we need to look at the other cards to see whether the argument could leave permanent damages in the two people’s dynamic. It is also a card of violence, though usually not on its own (you’d expect the Ten of Hearts reversed or the Ten of Spades or the Three of Spades reversed, for instance). Violence comes in many flavors (verbal abuse is different from physical abuse, for instance). Again, this will be clarified by other cards. In addition to the above, this card can point to displeasure in being together with the other person.
Work and Money: in this case, the sad news refers to the material side of life. Anything from failed projects to being fired to losing money or investments is fair game for the Ace of Spades. The more negative cards reinforce the message, the more disastrous it is. If the other cards are positive, on its own this card is not strong enough to destroy a career or your finances. It can point to feelings of discoursgement caused by a difficult financial situation, to underwhelming results or to difficulties getting along with coworkers (the other cards will show whose fault it is. Be careful about cards that may be showing a situation of mobbing, bullying, humiliation, etc.)
Other: the card also represents everything that repels us and that we don’t like, so it often shows up in situations where something happens that the person would rather didn’t happen or would stop if he or she could (see the example of the eviction below). More generally, all things, happenings or results that somehow disappoint us. Psychologically, this is a card of tears, and it can often pile negative vibes on top of other psychologically taxing cards to show depression, mental breaks and similar states of mind. It shows inner turmoil and feeling hurt, discouraged, deeply sorrowful. Spiritually, it shows lessons that are hard to learn and can point to areas or problems that the querent would rather not tackle because it causes them pain (with positive cards, it points to lessons that are uncomfortable to learn).
Being an ace and being a spade card, this card can show a bad beginning. With negative cards, the Sorrow card may show something that is bad from the start, and it advises not to undertake something. When it falls with positive cards, it can point to a difficult beginning that will improve or some growing pains as we leave our comfort zone. But don’t sugarcoat it: it remains a bad card.
Important Combinations:
A♠ + 10♠ and/or 10♥R = fight, violence
A♠ + 6♦ + 4♠ = can mean depression
A♠ + 3♣ + 2♥ + K♠ (+7♠R) = eviction
K♦ + A♠ (+7♠) + 5♠ = being fired
A♥ + A♠ = conversations and meetings that cause sorrow | confrontations | verbal abuse
REVERSED A♠R
General: the card becomes slightly positive, but still with potential negative undertones that are ready to come out near negative cards. In the main, it represents slight or passing disappointments and sorrows (or sorrows that lose some of their hold on the person). It represents situations that are difficult and call for effort, but are not completely lost. You are not just there, taking them on the chin, as with the upright card. Analogically, this card represents hard work, toil, labor. This includes the type of labor that comes before a child’s birth. As a further analogy, therefore, this card stands for fertility, germination, multiplication. It is the card of cycles, of the same thing many times. Finally, the upright meaning of violence is not lost, but it is usually rarer.
A specific function of this card is that when it is preceded by negative cards and followed by positive cards, it represents the end of a sorrowful period thanks to the querent’s ability to overcome obstacles. Conversely, when it is preceded by positive cards and followed by negative cards, it is a harbinger of a sorrowful period.
Love and Relationships: a lot depends on the polarity of the other cards and what they are saying. With negative cards, especially cards of anger and violence, the difficult nature of the Ace of Spades come to the fore, and it may even show that angry or violent outbursts come one after the other (cycles). With cards showing a thriving social life, it points to numerous dates and many outings. When describing a romantic relationship, this card shows strong carnal attraction and a sense of “sexiness”, the reason being that the card is associated with physical toil and therefore the body, and also because this card reverses the notion of “displeasure” found in the upright card. It can foretell a crush.
If a couple is hitting the rocks, depending on the narrative that the cards are showing, the reversed Sorrow may show recurring difficulties or, on the contrary, putting in the effort to salvage the relationship. Because of its connection to cycles, this card can, with the appropriate cards, show the return of someone.
Work and Money: for the most part, the A♠R is a card of hard work, great energy and the need for elbow grease. It represents great effort being put into something. Depending on the other cards, it may even show holding down two jobs, moonlighting and similar situations. If the following cards show a goal being reached, the reversed Sorrow announces the need for toil and sweat.
Due to its connection with physical labor, this card is traditionally associated with agriculture, especially the harvesting period. This can be literal or figurative, as in reaping the fruits of one’s actions (this is true in all fields of life).
Thanks to its connection with germination and production, it is a good card for investments when surrounded by positive money cards. Alternatively, and again, when with positive cards, it can point to good career prospects and great productivity.
A neutral meaning of this card is that of signature, because the act of signing something makes a contract “produce” its effect: it fertilizes it. The meaning is neutral because whether signing something is wise or not will be shown by the other cards.
Other: the meaning of signature extents to all areas of life. The meaning of harvest, too, can come up in many situations, and it carries with it the general idea of advantage, benefit and profit (if with positive cards). Psychologically, with negative cards it points to tiredness and overwhelm, while with positive cards it becomes a sign of energy and a proactive mindset. It can also show that negative feelings are beginning to lose their grip on the person, and he or she is starting to have the psychological elbow room to fight back. With other negative cards, it is a harbinger of sorrow or sadness.
This card is a staple of pregnancy readings, where it can show the woman going into labor. Being a card of fertility, it can also be anaylzed to see whether the person is fertile or not, and it can also foretell the conception phase.
Artistically, the A♠R can show the ability to come up with many ideas and inputs, a period of great productivity and a fecund mind.
Spiritually, its meaning varies a lot depending on the surrounding cards: from recurring “signs” or dreams to an excessive concern with physical reality to spiritual growth thanks to one’s effort and the reaping of what one has sown. It really depends on the context.
Important Combinations:
A♠R + 10♥ + 7♦ = giving birth (in general, A♠R + 10♥ can mean success after much toil)
A♠R + 8♣ = frequent meetings (if 8♣R, frequent disagreements)
A♠R + 2♥ = it can be a return home after a separation or the need to work hard at home
A♠R + 6♣ = getting many small sums of money | harvest
A♠R + 3♣ + J♦ = many small trips, especially errands
Other Combinations: Vera Sibilla | Examples of Combinations – The Aces
* “Sorrow” is a good translation of the word “Dispiacere”, which evokes ideas of mourning and disappointment. However, due the difference in root, a possible shade of meaning is lost, as the word “dispiacere” literally means “displeasure”, and so can refer to something we don’t like or that repels us.